Can we get real here for a second about your dating life?
Here’s the deal… When I talk to single women, I ask them how their dating life is going.
The answer I get most often is that things really aren’t happening in their dating life.
Left to their own devices, most women aren’t being contacted by the men they’d like to date.
I know that I too was frustrated many times over the course of my own dating journey because things seemed more difficult than I thought they should be.
Maybe for you too???
If you’re wondering why dating feels like you’re driving with one foot on the brake and one foot on the gas, wondering why you’re not meeting great guys to spend time with, I’d like to share something with you.
Yes, we both know that things like a great profile, knowing how to flirt and where to meet men are very important steps on the dating journey you’re taking.
But if I’m being honest with you, the REAL reason for your level of success or failure has to do with what’s going on internally…
Most women believe if they just had the right body or lived in a particular city or had more men to choose from, the relationship would come.
I know, because I’ve been closely observing, teaching and championing unhappy single women over 50 for quite a while.
And because I’ve been there too…
Here’s what I’ve discovered: Your level of dating success isn’t really about your looks and your weight as much as it is about how you approach dating.
If you want to know the truth, it actually stems from your mindset… the fears and limiting beliefs you may have about yourself and the men you want to date.
I know, it’s not something most dating mentors talk about openly, but I have discovered that your mindset is the ONE single thing that determines one’s level of success or failure in dating.
When you have a healthy dating mindset, your results get transformed, often overnight, and this translates to big breakthroughs in the number of quality men who contact you how many dates you go on and ultimately getting the relationship you desire.
And that’s why I want to give you this simple tip you can start using right away to give your dating mindset a major jumpstart.
Here it is….what you focus on in your dating life is what will show up in your dating life.
If you think over 50’s dating is impossible, discouraging, or something you hate to do…this will show up for you as bad dates, the wrong men always contacting you and maybe even quitting your dream of being in another relationship.
Instead, you want to develop a positive mindset.
When I was dating mine used to be…I’m going to have fun meeting new and interesting men.
Guess who showed up?
Great men who were fun and interesting.
Were they all romantic possibilities?
But I sure had a lot of fun getting to know them and many became friends I could hang out with while I was looking for my guy.
I love when I get emails like this one . . .
Lisa, I just wanted to let you know that thanks to you I met and married last Wednesday the most amazing quality man. People get so caught up in trying to change someone to fit their mold that they fail to look for the right match. Once you learn to stop reinventing the wheel it’s so much easier to change up your search to someone who might just “be the one”. It takes faith and thinking outside the box, but it can be done and it is sooo worth it. THANK YOU so very much!!!! Laurie, Idaho
If you’re feeling like finding love is a priority this summer, then let’s set up a time to talk about what your next step is. Take 2 minutes and click here to tell me what’s been happening in your love life. If I think I can help you, I’ll send you a link to my calendar for us to talk.
Want more over 50’s dating scoop?
I recently did a podcast with Love Coach Junie Moon where we talked all about finding love after 50.
You can check the podcast out by clicking here.
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